This week I'm sharing some tidbits of wisdom I've collected in the past from personal experience, working with hundreds of clients, and having learned lessons the hard way. This is not the formal stuff they teach you in school.
Life has a way of always throwing us curve balls. Just when we think we have our feet under us something seems to go off the rails. Or is that just my life? Regardless, here's what I've taken from all the chaos…
1. If a little is good; a lot is not always better. Too much of a good thing is not a good thing. This is how good things can become bad things.
2. Failure is part of life's journey and is required for success. It's OK to fail in front of others; it makes you human and actually more likable. However, your worth is not based on your failures or success. Your worth needs to come from you and only you. Failure is not permanent, it's one event.
3. I can pretty much guarantee that you are underestimating yourself and what you're capable of. You have already got through all of your worst days so far and likely learned a lot. Make a list of these times you have overcome hardship and adversity. You can do really hard things and you will get through whatever you are faced with. Many people hesitate and hold off instead of making decisions because they're afraid. Just act. You'll learn from it regardless. Don’t die talking about the things you wish you did.
4. Remember that all emotions will fade over time. You may be feeling overwhelmed right now, but this will subside. You may be feeling heart broken and can’t stop crying. The pain will not always be this bad and these days won't last forever.
5. Taking care of yourself is non-negotiable. It’s not up for discussion, you must make yourself a priority before you can thrive in other areas of your life. Whether you're trying to manage anxiety or work through grief, if you don’t care for your basic needs you'll undermine all of your recovery efforts.
Above all, be kind to yourself. Show yourself compassion and respect like you would another human being.