I am not quite sure how it happened, perhaps gradually and one small habit at a time, but I seemed to have lost my self-care practices; things I used to do religiously like working out, practicing yoga and meditation, even spending time with friends.
All the things I have been teaching clients about for years. All the things I would tell them “wouldn’t feel easy but they should do it anyways”. I am humbled by how far the pendulum can swing, anyone can quickly turn from thriving to surviving.
I have spent many of my days lately feeling like I am not the parent, partner, or leader I want to be, but then I recognize that is hard to do when feeling anxious and sad. It has left me feeling like a bit of a fraud, as many of you know if you follow my writing, that I openly speak about the importance of this stuff. When I shared this with a friend, she reminded me I am not a fraud, I am human. We all go through seasons like this, and we need to normalize it.
When times of struggle arise, losing self-care practices only complicates a bad situation. When we do not care for ourselves, we do not have the mindset to problem solve or help ourselves make the next right choice. But, as things finally seem to be turning a corner for me, I have been reminded that it is never too late to reset and refocus. Shaming ourselves does not help anything, it only adds a layer to an already difficult situation.
I have learned through all of this that self-compassion is key. Recognize your suffering and forgive yourself for whatever you have been doing to get through a tough season. Remind yourself:
This is not the end of the road. There are detours in all our paths, and these help us evolve into the people we are becoming.
So do not give up, no matter how steep the climb. Being challenged with what looks like obstacles is helping you become the best version of you. You are only human.
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