I want to say something out loud that we don’t hear a lot this time of year: sometimes this season is hard. And I don’t mean “a bit busy” hard. I mean the kind of hard that sits in your chest. The kind that makes you feel like you’re doing the holidays wrong because you’re not feeling the Christmas spirit. 

If you feel uneasy talking to your kids about sex, you’re not alone. Most of us didn’t grow up with open, healthy conversations about bodies or relationships, so it’s no wonder this topic feels intimidating.

Every year, like clockwork, we see it: In December, as the holidays approach, therapy sessions get cancelled. In September, as back-to-school chaos hits, reschedules roll in. And almost every time, the reason is some version of, “I’m just too busy right now.”

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about self-care — not the polished versions we see online, but the quieter, often uncelebrated choices that actually help us feel a little more human. Anyone who knows me would know that I’m still a work in progress when it comes to slowing down and resting, especially while being in what feels like a very busy season of life. But lately, I’ve been noticing that it’s the small, almost invisible habits that are making the biggest difference. Maybe they'll help you too!

When I was growing up, my dad would often say, “Time heals all”. He would say this while trying to reassure me as a child when I was crying or upset. I used to believe him and think time was enough. That in time, if I just kept going, kept busy, the pain would eventually fade. But here’s what I’ve learned the hard way on my unhealed wounds: time doesn’t heal what we aren’t willing or able to face.

Every once in a while, you read something that doesn’t just inform—it hits. It speaks to your lived experience in a way that feels like, “Yes. That. Exactly that." For me, that book was ADHD 2.0 by Dr. Edward Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey.

First—take a deep breath. If your child is in therapy, that means you’re doing something courageous. You’re seeking help. You care. And that matters. A lot. But let’s be honest about something that’s hard to say and sometimes harder to hear: Your child is not the problem to fix.

When someone reaches out to start therapy, it’s almost never about just one thing. Sure, maybe it starts with anxiety that won’t stop, a relationship that’s wearing you down, or the weight of burnout you can’t shake. But underneath, there’s usually something bigger—a need to feel seen, supported, and like yourself again.

We’ve all seen that person who seems like they have it together. Maybe it’s you. Sometimes it’s me. You’re organized. Reliable. You show up, get it done, and people count on you. On the outside, you’re doing just fine. Maybe even more than fine.

The other day, someone who’s never been to therapy asked me, “Why do people even go?” they weren’t being dismissive—just genuinely curious. I paused for a moment and said something I hadn’t fully articulated before.

I used to think virtual therapy couldn’t compare to in-person. As a therapist myself, I’ve always felt the energy in a room matters—that there’s something sacred about sitting across from someone and holding space.

This phrase, recently heard in our team EFIT (Emotion Focused Individual Therapy) training, landed for me in that way the best truths do — clear, simple, and absolutely undeniable. This statement is what I see every day in my work. It’s what I’ve lived myself. And I bet it’s something many of you will quietly recognize.

As a therapist, I sit with people in their most raw and vulnerable moments. I witness regret that can’t be undone, conversations that will never happen, goodbyes that came too soon, and chances people thought they had more time to take.

I’ve recently noticed a growing trend that more and more people are using AI for therapy. While AI tools like these might offer a sense of instant relief or support in the moment, they aren’t a replacement for a real, human connection.

When people hear "sex therapy," they often think it’s just about sex. But to me, it’s about so much more — it’s about connection, healing, identity and being fully seen in relationships. 

If you’ve been feeling more anxious lately — feeling overwhelmed by the headlines, or feeling discouraged by the state of our world — you’re not alone. I’ve noticed that there’s a noticeable rise in collective anxiety, and it’s not just personal. It’s political. It’s economic. It’s global. We are living in unique and uncertain times like we’ve never experienced before. 

If you’ve ever noticed changes in your sexual desire, arousal or satisfaction since starting a mental health medication, you’re definitely not alone—and it’s not all in your head.

Do you ever find yourself striving so hard to be a great parent, based on what you’ve learned in adulthood? Do you beat yourself up when you lose your sh*t or things don’t go as planned? It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the expectations we place on ourselves, especially when we draw from our own experiences, what we didn’t have, or what we strive to change for our kids.