First—take a deep breath. If your child is in therapy, that means you’re doing something courageous. You’re seeking help. You care. And that matters. A lot. But let’s be honest about something that’s hard to say and sometimes harder to hear: Your child is not the problem to fix.

Do you ever find yourself striving so hard to be a great parent, based on what you’ve learned in adulthood? Do you beat yourself up when you lose your sh*t or things don’t go as planned? It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the expectations we place on ourselves, especially when we draw from our own experiences, what we didn’t have, or what we strive to change for our kids. 

In 2021, I received a diagnosis that brought a lot of clarity to my life: ADHD. It was a turning point, helping me better understand many of my lifelong experiences, both the challenges and the strengths.